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16 Aug, 2019 | Posted By: Ru Apswoude
HOW TO AVOID BAD RELATIONSHIPS.... By Ru Apswoude

Here are qualities in a person who is toxic and you need to watch out for vanhu ava when looking for love 💕 ndaisa list yezvandofungawo and in comments you can add pandasiyirirawo. 

 

1. Arrogant People

Sometimes, people get arrogance confused with confidence.

Be careful, though, because this can be dangerous. Especially if he or she tries to convince you that they’re not really arrogant – they’re just confident. Arrogance is when a person always thinks they know best. Worse still, they never say ndakatadza I’m sorry and they never celebrate your wins.

Instead, it’s all about them.

While it’s nice to have a confident person in your life, the last thing you want is a conceited, arrogant soul who’s obsessed with being right all the time. Avoid!!! Rudo runenge kusura ukarumanikidzira unomama. 

 

2. Victims

Victims are well worth avoiding because they’ve never taken responsibility for anything in their life. Unonzwa hanzi hee ndakamitiswa nevarume 5 they took advantage of me. Hanzi mukadzi wangu aisagona kubika ndaifa nenzara kunge zvinonzi hauna maoko. Nothing is ever their fault, and nothing can ever change for them because they don’t take responsibility ever! 

Instead, they blame everything else for their bad luck and sorry position in life. They blame the economy, the government, the universe, their family, their last relationship … everything is to blame but them. Moreover, whenever anything bad at all happens to them, they sulk or get angry. The don’t do anything positive to change things. Ndivo vanhu vekuti vanotokupa blame yekufa Kwambuya vake when they were 3 years old ototi hezvo... zvaamashura kunge nyoka yauya yakaputa mbanje. 

What you want is a man/woman that takes ownership of their life. When he/she fails, he/she gets back up on their feet. And when something is their fault, they own up to it and makes sure it doesn’t happen again. 

 

3. Control Freaks

Control freaks are scary because, unlike an arrogant person or a victim, it’s really hard to leave them. Why? Because they learn how to manipulate and control you and the relationship. You might want to leave but they convince you otherwise. Unotoudzwa kunzi unopenga uchuwanepi anenge ini, wachembera ukuenda kupi. Every little idea yaunoudzwa everyday is to control your movements so you stay with them. Some even threaten violence hanzi ukandisiya hameno hako unonomuka wakafa (funny statement but ndiyo Shona yacho lol)

That’s scary!!

A control freak appears to be amazing at first. But it isn’t long before they use their manipulative powers to possess you and make you feel as though life would be just terrible without them ... and You need them. Control freaks need to be in control at all times. They need to know where you are, what you’re up to and what your plans are at all times. I remember I once dated Vamwe baba vaiti prove that you are home Batidza microwave kutoita kunge uchatakurana ne microwave kupinda mu town. It’s not worth it. As you can imagine, this sort of thing can be incredibly suffocating. If you think you’ve got a control freak on your hands, exit the relationship as soon as possible because ndovanoda kuona phone yako, ukuitei pafebook, control kuti unoita shamwari nani, unotaura nekuona hama dzako nguvai and even kana achikuchengeta they control money they give you to the last cent, make sure hapana fuel in your car so hapana kwekuenda, unoitwa kunge imbwa yakasungirirwa pamuti. 

 

4. Liars

Admit it – you’ve told a lie before. We all have. Tinoti hapana murume asinganyepi kuti awane mukadzi but manyepo anosiyana. 

Most of us have told little white lies to get us out of something, while plenty of us told lies as kids to shift responsibility and/or blame to your sister kuti ndiye aba biscuit. 

However, if you’ve met a man who’s a compulsive liar who has already lied to you about pretty important things, such as his whereabouts, you need to avoid him with all you can. Liars will only cause you great harm. Isu tikadiwa nevarume vanoti mukadzi wangu akafa ndoti sorry zvenyu ko ndiratidze death certificate. Unongowana wa blockwa munhu atiza. Vamwe hanzi ndine mwana one Apo ane 5 😳😳😳

 

5. Negative People

Who seriously wants to be around a negative person all the time? Not only do negative people bring us down, they can also shatter our own positivity. Negative energy is toxic, and it’s also infectious. It can kill your spirit. Pese pawati ndoda kutsvaga basa or learn this course wongonzi munozozvigona here? Vamwe vakadzi muri pane vanhu murume wako oda kusimuka kuti ataurewo woti ko nhai baba vaGiribheti madini masiya varume chaivo vataure. That’s negative for no reason. Before they suck the life out of you, avoid Negative people immediately. Unoda munhu anovimbawo newewo.

 

6. Greedy People

The reality? Greed is not good. If you’ve met a person who’s greedy, you need to be careful. While there’s nothing wrong at all with desire and ambition, greed is another level altogether. It become


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Ru Apswoude
Ru Apswoude
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